He has a theory based on years of research that strong marriages are built on deep friendships. He teaches when we are first best friends with our spouse then we can overlook the negative and not focus on it. My husband and I have a great relationship, we really never fight or even argue. We are best friends, this friendship has strengthened our relationship. I recall one rare time I was upset with Charles I said under my breath "jerk" in that exact moment I said in my mind "he is not a jerk, he is the best, most kind, loving man you know". I believe this thought came to me even in my anger because I really do focus on good in him daily and not the bad. This positive focus is so important in our everyday day to day lives so we will have positive experiences to look back on when challenges come up.
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