Our love maps indicate how well we know each other. Gottman said, "from knowledge springs not only love but the fortitude to weather marital storms. Couples who have detailed love maps of each other's world are far better prepared to cope with stressful events and conflict."
So...great friendships between husband and wife create even better marriages.
How do we stay friends, or become friends???
You have to spend time interacting and talking with your spouse. Doing things together, side by side builds those strong bonds of friendship.
A few small things Charles and I do to stay connected in our busy lives are:
1. Charles calls me everyday on his way home from work.
2. I only work 2 days a week, on the days I work Charles comes over and meets me for lunch.
3. When we are doing a big house clean-up we will work side by side as a team. Instead of in different parts of the house.
4. We try to lay down together at night and talk about our days as we cuddle. Both of us love this part of the day, even though Charles often falls asleep while I'm talking.
It's not the big adventures or fun vacations that form strong friendships. Friendship are formed and strengthened in the day to day, monotonous routines.
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